DEAR UNBORN ME

Dear Unborn Me….

Let me introduce myself to you. I am the Newborn Me who was not born before last year. I am writing this to you to tell you ‘what I feel’.

That was the trimester when you were rolling in your darkest womb as grubby gunk of beliefs, opinions, and trusts. You were caught on a wild ride in the whirlpool of painful ploys. Your heart was sieved by the wrecks of insults.

A point came and you became dumb and paralyzed, you looked lost. I thought you would be stillborn. That was the point when the Universe made Me your call.

You heeded my call because everything is bound to change. So you began to fight, punch and kick to come out of the womb. You began to drill your path beyond the bullshit to push Me out into the light.

This process of birth was not normal; it was ripping, spilling all the truth. It was a dive into the gaping insight. It was a declaration to the incarnation. Yes, your heart was chipped and your wings were torn in the hard labor. But you were taken care of in the resolving incubator; you became your medicine and you became Me.

Now I know it all. I dropped the desire to forgive someone. I know I am powerless to forgive anyone who plays under the Super Power. I hold on to nothing now. I am over it.

You were a part of a great Universal shift. Your Womb World set you on the right path and created Me. Your hurts are my reminders for compassion and sensitivity. You gave me your scars, I made them into stars. You showed me the source of happiness which is in me.

You made my life a magnum opus. You taught me my Yin is as important for me as my Yang. I get upset, maybe weird, I may need little attention, praises and teeny weenie ego fixes but they have their fine lines. I am practicing more patience and I am sharpening my awareness. I am in a truce with peace. I trust the itinerary of the Universe. I made my trampoline out of solitude to reach out to the Special Rose of Life Purpose. I prefer to make changes to my outer form while I am making more important changes inside.

I thank you for not pushing me to become something instantly. Because you know evolution is not about a single day. Please convey my big thanks to your Womb World for making this transformation possible for me!!

With Love & Care

Your

ME.

SHIRO THE ZEN MASTER

Our two-year-old Labrador Shiro is my Zen master. She is my Zen Guru since we are learning lots of spiritual lessons from this little angel. Shiro is one of the key reasons today I am able to see the world with cataracts cleared. Today I am going to tell you about only the present Shiro’s Zen qualities. Because as a child she was an unadulterated nightmare J.

The most wonderful attribute about Shiro is she is too friendly to all the living things she finds on this earth. Her love is universal. She greets everyone with warmth and affection. She welcomes us happily as if she is welcoming her long lost friends, though the separation is just for a few minutes. Either we come home with empty hands or hands full of treats; her fervor for us is the same. She has special motherly affection for puppies and human kids. She is the best friend with whom we can sit all day long and not have to swap a single word. She never misreads our silence. Regardless of where she is, the moment she sniffs a conversation, she enters, takes her well-situated position and heads the board.

Shiro is my healer. She is my motivator. She compassionately swallowed the tears from my dispirited days and never talked or laughed at my back later. She never judges me or pinpoints my low days. She is my inspiration to let go and move forward. She teaches us not to hold grudges on anyone. For Shiro, we are her only family though she makes out our unfairness towards her at times. She has no ego. She accepts what cannot be changed. Shiro is a peacemaker who never entertains quarrels and arguments.

Shiro lives in NOW. She has no worry about the past or future. She seems so contented when she is playing with herself. Shiro is a super ‘napper’. She takes too many briefs out of her day to relax. She sits with her forelegs stretched ahead - sometimes crossed, her head and chest held straight and elevated; her neck rises a bit as she focuses on something; her honey dipped eyes both intense and composed; her face so serene and calm. I am still trying many meditation techniques to attain a state that Shiro resides in all the time. If I sit for meditation and start chanting OM, she licks my face as if she is blessing me for all the bliss. Though we take sunlight for granted Shiro always looks for a patch of sunlight, she gets there, closes her eyes and shows her gratitude to the SUN by taking a sunbath.

Shiro knows no crafty games; her motives are fair and simple. A gentle rub on her belly is her only luxury. She is the very minimalist and is happy to the fullest. During her routine hours, she patiently sits and waits for the magical sound ‘leash’. Once her leash is grabbed she is happily ready for a ‘get set walk’. And she leads her walker like a personal physical trainer. Just being with the family makes Shiro’s life meaningful.

I started calling her Zen master just for a laugh but then I realized she is a Zen master on her own.

SHIRO IS THE SILENT WITNESS TO ALL OUR DEEDS

Happy Birthday Shiro baby!! Thank You. Love!!

Shaila.

Speaking Silence

Silence is the humble language and the sweetest lullaby.

I choose to live in the language and sleep to the lullaby.

My Silence speaks to me when I unhook from the noise, I unrobe my inner self.

All thoughts with tails, horns, fangs and claws in all the vainglory emerge and lose the vigor in my Deep Silence.

Silence shuts my ego down and taps my nothingness.

My interior silence corners me with my True Self.

Silence is my resort from hollow worldly hassles.

Silence sets me with my Soul.

Silence brings in my natural wisdom.

Silence gives me effortless lucid knowledge.

Silence is the energy that makes me strong, it is the power that makes me bold.

My deep inner Silence shows me all the truths of life.

Silence saturates my heart with unconditional love and peace.

Silence is my powerful weapon during rows and rumors.

Space is Silence. Silence is Spacious.

Silence is Nature. SILENCE IS MY REAL NAME.

When I say I prefer Silence, it doesn’t mean to get the wrong end of the stick. I am not tongue tied when I ought to speak.

Thank You. Love!!

Shaila.

MINIMALISM

MINIMALISM. This is not a fad word. This is a synonym for a simplistic lifestyle. This means to have fewer belongings.  

MINIMALISM is undoing the urge of inadequacy - to want more, own more and to become more.  Having less gives us more time, money and energy to explore.

Simple tips for a simple lifestyle:

Stay satisfied.

Re-use and repair.

Own less or they own you.

Buy things to use, not to store.

Buy quality things, avoid reinvesting.

Jump from comfort zones to free zones.

Spend less. Do less. Need less. Talk less. Eat less.

Declutter digital life. Cut off complaints.

Cut back and create more space for new things.

End impulsive, provocative and competitive shopping.

Invest less in goods and more in essential things in life.

Distance yourself from stuff. Get used to the separation. Finally, let go.

Let’s create a pleasurable room in each area of our lives. Life is more valuable rather waste it in organizing valueless clutter. We are bound to this world by a brittle breath. Too many material chattels suffocate us and separate us from the soul.

Minimalism is one of the factors that allow achieving a peaceful and free life. More stuff, more attachments. Let’s reduce the needs and recede. We are not buying anything on this earth, we are borrowing everything. Let’s leave debt free.

MINIMALISM is not just about purging things out. It’s about realizing the purpose of life. It’s about simply knowing how SIMPLE we are.


Thank You. Love!!
Shaila

UNCHAIN THE ELEPHANT

You might have seen a captivated giant elephant submissively standing, held back by a feeble chain. You might also have thought how such a potent, massive animal kept in check by a skimpy chain around its ankle? You know why, it’s tuned that way. When an elephant is a calf, it is tied firmly to a big peg with a sturdy chain to prevent it from roaming around. It edgily forces itself to break free and sooner or later it gives up all its efforts and fixes its mind to stay put. This conviction of vulnerability lasts throughout it’s entire life. Even after the baby turns into an oversized adult elephant, it stays right where it is. This is what we call the ‘Baby Elephant Syndrome’.

Same way most of us are living on invisible strings. Our self-defeating preserved beliefs and someone else’s limited opinions are not letting us free from the ‘Vulnerability Syndrome’. We are absurdly allowing the flimsy strings of cluttering fears and beliefs to bind us. We are very much convinced that we are incapable. And the invisible strings which are limiting us are not around our ankles, but are in our minds. We can break those factually feeble and functionally powerful strings and embrace freedom. For this we don’t have to forge multi-layered hammers, a simple revelation and shift in focus make us liberated.

Nothing is really real. Life here is a never-ending hologram. The reality of someone is not our reality. We can see what we want to see. Our coffee could be bitter one day. Our house can be untidy for someday. I need not be so perfect like my sibling. You are not a singer, but still you can sing. The dresses you choose need not match my mark. I am not a good cook, so what? It’s ok if somebody’s life is not ideal. Don’t tell yourself not to take a break till you complete your work. Get up take a stroll. No problem if he fails attempting something. His failure is part of his learning honey. We need not suffer from someone else’s ego politics and opinions. Or all these invisible flimsy strings get tangled and toughened to pull us more inside our slavery periphery.

Staying in psychological prison is not at all fun. Some memories keep us with the flow of life; some hold us stagnated to stale. We can use our memories and thoughts intelligently without being trapped. Like the elephant, if only we are not convinced that ‘we cannot’, it’s hardly a task for us to break the invisible strings of false norms and go free from the prison that we have created in our minds. Let the experiences of failures not limit us.

We don’t create our freedom, it’s there in us. Let’s look in and unearth our freedom and move beyond the slavery periphery. Let’s not accept the bogus boundaries. Let’s not count upon the past and future. Let’s pull the power of NOW and tread past the mental suffering. Let’s cross our boundaries with all our gifted natural power, like how we emerged from our mothers’ wombs. Let’s build some intellectual scissors to cut off our psychological chords!! Let’s align us with NATURE!!!

Thank You. Love!!

Shaila

HURT GURUS

People hurt us. Friends, family, strangers hurt us at times. We have all been hurt, disgraced, debarred or debased at some point in life. It’s just part of life. What I want to share here with you is: if people put you down, it’s not about you, it’s not even about them, yes it’s not even about them, and it’s all about their very nature. Be kind to them. That’s how it works.

Who hurts?

Normally people hurt you when they…

… are highly self-absorbed.

… are jealous and insecure.

...  have internal programs and inner stories.

… are hollow at heart and are hurting within.

… are with helpless and humiliating childhood.

… facing trouble with the truth about something.

...  look upon ‘things’ and look down over ‘people’.

… are people pleasers, they hurt you to please others.

… have no conscience and sense no sense of accountability.

… are cut off to their heart’s space and hurt people as a practice.

Why they hurt?

People generally put you down to…

…act convinced to cover their emptiness.

…forget their pain by making fun of you.

…hide their fear and to defend themselves.

…get your reaction and to use it for their offense.

…make you feel ‘Mx. Bad’ and to make them feel ‘Mx. Perfect’.

…to show how little you are by their ‘self-bragging’.

…provoke you to get you wild or to make you go bananas.

… tell you that they are ‘reforming’ you so they have to say so.

… pacify their ego when you say ‘No’ to the favor they ask you.

What happens?

o    You lose trust in people.

o    Hurtful words break your self-worth.

o    You may feel intense emotional pain.

o    Hurtful words leave invisible wounds on your self-esteem.

o    You have always cared for people but you are shamed in return.

o    The scars from the verbal wounds may even last a lifetime.

How to deal?

ü  Accept the Pain. Analyze and let go.

ü  Learn from your pet how to forgive.

ü  Reciprocate gently with “Thank you”.

ü  Stop your reaction to stop their action.

ü  Become stronger as the weaker are the best victims.

ü  Don’t believe their words that negotiate your wellbeing.

ü  Don’t copy their behavior if you don’t want to regret it later.

ü  For unintentional ‘hurters’ you can let them know how you feel.

ü  For intentional ‘hurters’ buy them a mirror because it’s their own reflection upon you.

ü  In lighter situations simply ask them “Do you mind some coffee?” getaway.

ü  In severe situations back off with an air of confidence. Time will tell them what it is and how it is.

ü  Sometimes the ones you love the most may hurt you intensely. Don’t give upon them. Step back and start caring for them.

Make them your Gurus

Remember every person out here is our Guru. Learn what you have to learn from your Hurt Guru.

*       Remorse from the Guru may or may not happen, better learn forbearance.

*       Your Hurt Guru is teaching you how to brighten people’s lives without the ugly specks from hurtful words.

*       Your Hurt Guru is helping you to realize how important it is to maintain personal courtesy social integrity, and human dignity.

*       Your Hurt Guru makes you turn inward. Have you ever tongue lashed people? Yes? Please stop because now you know how it hurts.

Remember

v  People who truly care for you will never hurt you in any given situation.

v  People are supposed to add value to others lives. Not to drag others down.

v  Pass constructive criticism, not destructive verbal abuse.

v  Pep up people. Ignite hope for humanity. Light the world with love.

v  Never blame your Hurt Gurus. Seriously never! Love them more. They need love.

The Cause and Effect lurking out there honey. It’s a boomerang. Don’t hurt or you get hurt someday.

Thank You. Love!!

Shaila.

THE IRON MAZE

              

            We, the people are living in big multi-dimensional, wall to wall political maze now. Inside this labyrinth, we are racing miles and miles, making love with political paradigms, carrying expectations and ending up with burying our stillborn trusts. It's hard to see what's going on through this reinforced structure.

               A humongous shift is happening. The 'Democracy' is taking a make-over with 'individual hedonism' and 'self-indulgent programming'. A depraved political threat from the outside is steering us to retrace our steps back in this maze. The media, oligarchs, mafia and the corrupt politics are shamelessly strip-teasing right in front of our eyes. Too many index fingers; too much mud scattering; unwise arrogant political engineering; heightened twists. No one knows what is next.

              Getting stuck in this maze is a failure to democracy. our ballots are ditched; our time is cheated. This is a devastating truth. Though we are fighting back to resent the system. We are striking back the forged agendas and analogies. 'Write-ups' and 'stand-ups' can just ignite the spur for a change. But, by altering our habitual attitudes and by overcoming our psychological weaknesses we must jump into combat to stop this parasitic invasion before it sweeps us down.

              We know how to break the manacles of this modern slavery. Here is a Plan A and a Plan B to pacify our rumbling. Plan A -  "Explode to Implode". Plan B - "Sleep in the Maze". We now know even a dullard doesn't choose the Plan B. So let us furiously 'explode' to 'implode' the forced political madness and design an anticipated  "Common Sense World".

Thank You. Love!!

Shaila